Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Damaging Man

Damaging man, damaging man,

You write down who I'm supposed to be,
and then erase every aspect,
every part that came with me.

Damaging man, damaging man,

You tell me I'll never be good enough for anyone to love and then tell me to doll up,
no fella wants to see an ugly duckling.

Damaging man, damaging man,

You say you'd kill anyone who'd try to touch your baby doll,
but how many baby dolls have you touched without consent?

Damaging man, damaging man,

You tell me how I should decorate my body to how you see fit,
but god forbid I dare touch my own temple and decorate it as I please.
Oh, that's right! I'm representing you, everyone will see.

Damaging man, damaging man,
That's not ladylike.
Oh no. I better not do it.
That's right, I have a gender role and I need to stick right to it.

Damaging man, damaging man,

I better not dare be a slut.
I better not be in charge of my own body and be a sexual being,  or I'll be tarnished. I won't be pure”.
You don't want to be known as the father of a whore.

Damaging man, damaging man,

I dare not raise my voice to you or any other man.
That is the golden rule.
Does that include the men that make me feel like an object?
The men that call me babysweetiecute little thing and why won't you fucking smile,
while I'm walking down the street, minding my own business,
hurrying to get home and hoping she was ugly anyway” doesn't follow me?

Damaging man, damaging man,

Having my own opinion is wrong.
I need to learn my place and be a good wife.
Have children, be nice.
Be sweet, be gentle, be weak, be caring.
Know my place, not be daring.
Never raise my voice to loud and always apologize for everything I do.
After all, being a woman is shameful.
My femininity is disgraceful.
I must be tasteful and ready to cater to the man.
Be mothering before being anything I want to be.
Be your definition of what a woman is supposed to be,
and stick to your plan.

Damaging man, damaging man,
Guess what?

I've had enough. You no longer are the main protagonist in my movie.
You no longer are the director, the writer or the starring role.
You are not even a side character. I refuse to give you any more control.
It's my time to write my own script, and believe me, I will.
My words are permanent, my words are mine.
I own all my ink plasters without shame.

You no longer dictate how I walk, talk or act.
You no longer damage me, damaging man.
This is my movie, I'm my own director.
I'll write off everything you began,
every painful detail will be erased, you did the mistake of using a pencil.
You did the mistake of underestimating me because of my gender.

Damaging man, damaging man,

It's my turn to write, and I'll be sure as hell to write it down with a pen.

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